10 Moments of a Good Sub

I very often hear: “I wanna be a good sub!” and I got asked quite a few times: “What’s a good sub to you?”. You should always ask that question when entering a bdsm relationship because it is very, very different what different people consider to be a “good sub”. To an irritating high percentage of men “being a good sub” seems to mean getting fucked with a strap-on and licking cum from boots. For me this has nothing to do with being submissive but with a certain kind of kink – but that’s a topic for another day.

I don’t want to write a guideline on how to become the perfect sub because there is no such thing. Not in general, not even specifically attuned to me. Every person is different and has his/her own way of servitude. And that is a beautiful thing because it allows for such different dynamics to develop and I enjoy this variety alot.

What I want to do is sharing some moments when my dominant heart was full of joy because of my submissives. This might give you a hint of what virtues I value in my play partners.

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1. He wouldn’t dare to order a steak when going out with his vegan Mistress.

2. I found a printed guide book on How to brew tea? on his desk. “But you don’t drink tea” I said wondering. “No. But you do. And therefore I need to know how to prepare it for you.”

3. He just pleasured me excessively. Satisfied and happy I tease him a bit about not having an orgasm himself. Without a moment of hesitation and with the most innocent face he looks at me: “You just came on my face. What more could I possibly want?”

4. He’s my unicorn.

5. We had an intense prolonged weekend together. We both wanted to play, play, play. And we did. At some point during this weekend he suggested that I could sit down on the patio for a moment. He tucked me into a blanked, stuffed a pillow under my legs and brought me a cup of tea. I fell asleep even before the tea reached drinking temperature. He saw what I needed even before I did – and took care of it when he just as easily could have engaged in more kinky play with me.

6. For the first time in over 10 years he took off his beard.

7. He disagreed with me and told me so – even though he had to fear negative consequences. That took courage and showed backbone.

8. He sent me nudes. No, usually that is no indication for being a good whatever! But: He was half a world away with very limited resources. I asked him for something sexy to delight me. As a rubber fetishist he feels even more exposed than average people when being completely naked. But he did it. And he did it well.

9. The first time I invited him to accompany me to an event he frantically went into a shopping spree because he naturally considered himself my accessory and wouldn’t risk to disgrace me by not looking good enough by my side.

10. He said: “Do to me whatever you want.” and really meant it. Full trust without any limitations.

How could I not be happy to have these men in my life? :)

 

Facesitting, Ass Worship, Rimming

There was a discussion on Fetlife with the title “rimjob vs ass worship” and the opening post says the following:

I think its interesting that people associate rimjob with a woman licking a men’s ass, but when we hear ass worship and facesitting we think about a man licking a woman.
why do you think it is like that?

I got a little furious just by reading that – please excuse my language – stupid question.
It’s like that because people watch too much porn and porn loves to use the wrong labels to better sell their stuff. However, I thought it fitting to publish my answer here in my blog too because I have to clear things up way too often when I get requests for facesitting or ass worship.

I see a big problem in taking rimming, facesitting and ass worshipping as the the same thing and it annoys me on a daily basis as I am really into ass worshipping.

Facesitting is – like the word itself says – to SIT on someones face. This can include more or less breath reduction and/or weight load. The persons face is an equivalent to a chair. And a chair doesn’t lick me; not anal, not vaginal. You don’t even have to be naked to do that!

Rimming on the other hand is clearly defined as licking someones anus. No misunderstanding possible.
To do that you don’t necessarily have to sit on someones face and you don’t you don’t the setting of worship to do it.

Ass Worship can be so many things. You can adore the sheer sight, you can massage, caress and kiss these beautiful cheeks,… and so much more.
It’s so sad that many people have such a limited imagination to think that worshipping only meens to stick their tongue between someone elses bum cheeks!

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Wie meine Fotografin sehr richtig sagte: “Du hast einen Arsch-Fetisch, oder?”.
Japp, habe ich. Einen ziemlich ausgeprägten sogar ;)
Abgesehen von süßen Lolitas mit Kulleraugen stehe ich ja ziemlich auf den Typ Frau, der ich selbst bin: weich, kurvig, weiblich. Ich schaue mir mit Vergnügen einen schönen Hintern an! Ja, es gibt auch schöne Männerhintern, aber die sind meist nicht so rund und zart ;)
Wo ich bei meinem Gegenüber (egal ob Mann oder Frau) gern die Hand laut auf dem Hinterteil klatschen lasse, bevorzuge ich für die Behandlung meiner eigenen Kehrseite doch deutlich andere Töne. Eine hingebungsvolle Po-Massage kann ich über alle Maßen genießen und schnurre dabei im Idealfall auch mal wie ein Kätzchen. Aber wie das mit Katzen so ist, sollte man nicht vergessen, dass sie Krallen haben…
Den geneigten Po-Liebhaber treibe ich mit größtem Vergnügen mittels Tease and Denial in den Wahnsinn und Atemreduktions mittels Facesitting ist bei so einem üppigen Prachtexemplar definitiv etwas ganz anderes als bei einem Größe XS-Popöchen *schmunzel*
Wer sich also schon immer mal unter dominanter Führung seiner Liebe zu wohlgeformten Kehrseiten hingeben wollte, ist mir aufs Herzlichste willkommen!