10 Moments of a Good Sub

I very often hear: “I wanna be a good sub!” and I got asked quite a few times: “What’s a good sub to you?”. You should always ask that question when entering a bdsm relationship because it is very, very different what different people consider to be a “good sub”. To an irritating high percentage of men “being a good sub” seems to mean getting fucked with a strap-on and licking cum from boots. For me this has nothing to do with being submissive but with a certain kind of kink – but that’s a topic for another day.

I don’t want to write a guideline on how to become the perfect sub because there is no such thing. Not in general, not even specifically attuned to me. Every person is different and has his/her own way of servitude. And that is a beautiful thing because it allows for such different dynamics to develop and I enjoy this variety alot.

What I want to do is sharing some moments when my dominant heart was full of joy because of my submissives. This might give you a hint of what virtues I value in my play partners.

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1. He wouldn’t dare to order a steak when going out with his vegan Mistress.

2. I found a printed guide book on How to brew tea? on his desk. “But you don’t drink tea” I said wondering. “No. But you do. And therefore I need to know how to prepare it for you.”

3. He just pleasured me excessively. Satisfied and happy I tease him a bit about not having an orgasm himself. Without a moment of hesitation and with the most innocent face he looks at me: “You just came on my face. What more could I possibly want?”

4. He’s my unicorn.

5. We had an intense prolonged weekend together. We both wanted to play, play, play. And we did. At some point during this weekend he suggested that I could sit down on the patio for a moment. He tucked me into a blanked, stuffed a pillow under my legs and brought me a cup of tea. I fell asleep even before the tea reached drinking temperature. He saw what I needed even before I did – and took care of it when he just as easily could have engaged in more kinky play with me.

6. For the first time in over 10 years he took off his beard.

7. He disagreed with me and told me so – even though he had to fear negative consequences. That took courage and showed backbone.

8. He sent me nudes. No, usually that is no indication for being a good whatever! But: He was half a world away with very limited resources. I asked him for something sexy to delight me. As a rubber fetishist he feels even more exposed than average people when being completely naked. But he did it. And he did it well.

9. The first time I invited him to accompany me to an event he frantically went into a shopping spree because he naturally considered himself my accessory and wouldn’t risk to disgrace me by not looking good enough by my side.

10. He said: “Do to me whatever you want.” and really meant it. Full trust without any limitations.

How could I not be happy to have these men in my life? :)

 

Happy 29th Birthday to me!

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Ja, ich bin wieder ein bisschen spät dran und warum ist eigentlich schon wieder September?! Himmel, wenn die Zeit weiterhin so rennt, muss ich wohl bald mein Weihnachtsshooting planen! Aber zurück zu Thema: Ich hatte Geburtstag! Hooray! Und viele meiner wunderbaren Gäste, Verehrer und Freunde aus der Fetischszene haben am 19. August daran gedacht! Dafür will ich hier einfach Danke sagen! Und ganz nebenbei eine kleine Auswahl der tollen Geschenke zeigen, die ich so bekommen habe. Ich habe mich über jedes einzelne sehr gefreut! <3 <3 <3

Ein ganz besonderes Dankeschön geht an J., den perfekten devoten Gentleman, der mich am Vorabend meines Geburtstags zum Sushi-Schlemmen und Fetisch-Shopping ausgeführt hat – inkl. anschließendem Ausprobieren der neuen Errungenschaften, sodass mein Geburtstag im wahrsten Sinne des Wortes mit einem Höhepunkt begann ;)

Auf dem Bild unten zu sehen:

  • Headpiece und Pin-up-Ohrstecker von Obscene Store Kiel
  • Dessous von Fantasie und Curvy Kate
  • Cockring mit Spikes und Magnetkugeln für schmerzhaft-schöne Momente
  • Sekt zum Anstoßen
  • Badesachen von LUSH
  • Buch über eine Frau, die sich nicht den Mund verbieten lässt
  • Comicband von Eric Stanton
  • Bling-Bling-Ohrstecker von Thomas Sabo
  • 2 Kimonos: einer für die Sauna, einer für’s Schlafzimmer ;)

Yes, yes as always I’m a bit late and why the hell is it September already?! Gosh if time keeps running like that I better start planning my Xmas shoot! But back to the topic ahead: It was my birthday! Hooray! And a lot of my lovely clients, slaves, admirers and friends from the fetish scene thought of it on this 19th August. I just wanted to say “Thank you!” for that! And of course show you all some of the awesome gifts I received <3 <3 <3

A very special thanks goes to J., they perfect submissive gentleman who took me out for sushi and fetish shopping the night before – including testing the newly bought things so my birthday could literally start with a climax ;)

What you can see in the picture above includes:

  • headpiece and pin-up ear rings by Obscene Store Kiel
  • lingerie by Fantasie and Curvy Kate
  • cockring with spikes and magnets for painful joys
  • something bubbly to say cheers
  • something to make my bathtub cheerfully bubbly by LUSH
  • a book about a woman who refuses to shut up
  • coffee-table book by Eric Stanton
  • bling bling ear rings by Thomas Sabo
  • 2 kimonos: 1 for the sauna, 1 for the bedroom ;)

OnlyFans: Exklusive Videos & Co.

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Ich kuriere aktuell die letzten Züge meiner Grippe aus und dachte mir, ich nutze die Zeit für was Schönes, was ich ohnehin schon länger vorhatte. Und so habe ich vor ein paar Tagen meinen Account bei OnlyFans eingerichtet.

Für alle, die das noch nicht kennen: Was ist das? OnlyFans sieht aus wie Twitter und funktioniert auch so ähnlich. Mit einem kleinen Unterschied: Um zu sehen, was ich dort poste, musst du einen Monatsbeitrag bezahlen (aktuell 15 US-Dollar).

Warum du das tun solltest? Nun, es zwingt dich natürlich niemand ;) Aber ich werde auf OnlyFans immer wieder Sahnehäppchen posten, die ich nirgendwo gratis zeige. Das können sowohl Bilder, Videos als auch kleine Mindfuck-Geschichten sein. Der Obolus von umgerechnet etwa 12 Euro pro Monat ist also eher symbolisch, wenn man überlegt, was du dafür zu sehen bekommst. Immerhin habe ich großen Spaß daran, diese kleinen Teaser mit der Welt zu teilen – aber es macht eben mehr Spaß, wenn man auch etwas zurück bekommt und nicht nur gratis irgendwelche Tastenerotiker unterhält, die ohnehin niemals zu echten Gästen werden ;) Außerdem gibt es noch ein paar andere nette Funktionen:

  • Tips: Wenn dir etwas besonders gut gefallen hat oder du mir einfach nur eine Freude machen willst, kannst du jederzeit ein Trinkgeld (“Tip”) senden.
  • Bezahlnachrichten: Prima, wenn ich mir Zeit für erotische Chats nehmen soll.
  • monatlich kündbar: Du musst keine Langzeitverpflichtung eingehen.

Für mich ist das Ganze ganz schön, weil ich gern mal ein kleines Video drehe, aber keine Lust habe, einen Clip-Store auf einem der großen Videoportale zu pflegen. Wer mich also gern öfter mal in bewegt oder besonders sexy sehen möchte, hat nun die Chance dazu :)

Inhaltlich wird dort die ganze Bandbreite dessen auftauchen, was mich so begeistert: Latex, Füße, Nylons, Hintern, Bondage, Tease & Denial, … Gelegentlich lasse ich mich ja auch mal zu einem Wunschvideo überreden. Auch das können wir via OnlyFans abwickeln.

Und jetzt: Melde dich an und genieß’, was du siehst!

I nurse my influenza at the moment so I thought I could use the forced rest to do something nice I planned for quite some time now. So I set up an Account at OnlyFans.

If you don’t know it yet: What is OnlyFans? Well, it looks a lot like Twitter and works very similiarly. With one little difference: To see what I post there you have to pay a monthly tribute (right now: 15 US Dollars).

Why should you do that? Well, of course nobody is forcing you to ;) But every now and then I will post exclusive content there that will appear nowhere for free.That can be videos, photos or little mindfuck stories. So the obolus you pay is really more of the symbolic kind if you compare it to what you get for it. That’s because I really enjoy teasing you with these things – but I enjoy it a bit more if I get something back instead of only entertaining online lurkers that will never evolve to real clients/servants ;) Also there are some nice features:

  • tips: If you enjoyed something in particular or just want to bring a smile to my face you can send a tip at any time.
  • paid messages: Perfect if you would like me to take the time for erotic chats.
  • terminable every month: You don’t have to commit to a long abo.

For me this system is perfect because I take pleasure in filming something from time to time but have no interest in upkeeping a clip store at one of the big video portals. So if you want to see me in action more often: Here is your chance :)

The content will be the full range of what I enjoy: latex, foot fetish, nylons, ass worship, tease and denial, bondage, … From time to time I agree to do custom clips. That is something that also can be managed through the OnlyFans site.

And now: Sign up and enjoy!

Nerdy, kinky role playing games

A friend just send this to me and I was like “OK, let’s look at a stupid clichee dominatrix sketch.” but I was surprised and amused in all the best ways *g* Enjoy!

If you are up for a kinky RPG adventure: Let me know! I’m your Dungeon Mistress – one way or the other ;) A session with me is like a natural 20 and oh boy, do I love critical hits!

Kinky Xmas 2017 [English Version]

By now it is so cold outside that I have to switch seamed stockings for opaque pantyhoses and most likely by next week I will have a dozen boxes of homemade cookies in my kitchen. That can only mean onw thing: Christmas is near!

It’s my first Christmas without a dungeon and that feels stange for many reasons: It was right before Christmas when I first got a taste of being a professional Dominatrix. Some years I spent the holidays at Studio M.Z. Labyrinth and every year I had a special offer during the Advent season. Oh, how well I remember the year when I transformed one of my slaves into a living christmas tree! :D Also: Every client – no matter how big or small his booking – got a little festive goodie bag. With some guys I even sat together for hot punch and fruit cake. I enjoyed all of this very much and not having it this year … it hurts a bit.

But: I am not the kind of woman who laments. I prefer looking for solutions. So I came up with something that allows us to enjoy a bit of kinky xmas fun nonetheless *chuckle*

I will pack a personal xmas surprise package for you – a real or virtual one. This is how it works:

1. You’ll surprise me with something from my wishlist – how bis or small is up to you.

2. You tell me via comment or email:

  • 3 shorthands with things you like – e.g. “feet, worn pantyhose, orgasm control” or “latex, boots, ass worship” or “cuckolding, chastity, nipple play” or whatever it is tha makes you tick.
  • If you would like a real or digital xmas gift.
  • For a real package I will need your addresse, otherwise your email addresse will suffice.

3. You’ll enjoy the pleasant anticipation. Your gift can include:

  • used lingerie, stocking or socks
  • slave tasks
  • photos
  • videos
  • brainfuck stories
  • homemade/hand-picked sweets

While creating you xmas gift package I will keep in mind a) the 3 keywords you have given me and b) the gift you have picked for me – if possible and senseful this might even play a part in what I may create for you.

So if you would like to play this little xmas game with me: This offer stands until 31th December 2017. This way you have chance for a kinky gift even if your advent time is pretty stressful and you might just recognize on Christmas Eve that something special is missing to you.

How not to be a timewaster

Meaning well and doing well are two different things that are sometimes getting mixed up.

There are a lot of timewasters out there who just have no respect for the women they are talking to. I’m in this business much too long to make a fuss about these guys – the moment I uncover what they are they don’t get any more attention. Done.

But it’s a bit more tricky with potential clients who mean well but don’t think enough about what their actions really mean to the addressed lady. For you guys I have discoverd a very helpful piece of writing: Different Types of Timewasters by eyemblacksheep. This might also be helpful for the less experienced ladies that I know read my blog. Enjoy!

Info: Anfragen via Email und Telefon

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Einige von euch haben es sicher schon bemerkt, aber für alle anderen hier nochmal der offizielle Hinweis:

Ich bin mittlerweile nur noch schwer telefonisch zu erreichen.
Wenn du direkt mit mir sprechen möchtest, um einen persönlichen Eindruck zu bekommen, darfst du natürlich nach wie vor gern anrufen. Die besten Chancen, dass ich tatsächlich rangehe, hast du unter der Woche zwischen 20:00 und 22:00 oder aber am Wochenende.

Deshalb bevorzuge ich aktuell die Kontaktaufnahme via E-Mail. Meine Mails kann ich immer und überall lesen. Beantworten werde ich sie in der Regel am Abend, wenn es um zeitnahe Termine geht oder ganz entspannt am Wochenende, wenn der angefragte Termin noch etwas weiter entfernt ist.

Auch meine Zeiten für mögliche Sessions haben sich verändert:
Mo – Fr ab 18:30
Sa & So ganztägig, Mindestbuchungszeit 2 Std.

Termine müssen mindestens einen Tag vorher vereinbart und ggf. angezahlt werden.

Many of you guys already noticed but for everyone else here comes the official info:

It is very hard to reach me via telephone these days.
If you would like to talk to me to get a good personal impression feel free to call! To have a good chance that I’ll pick up the phone try it during between 20:00 and 22:00 during the week or wait until the weekend.

I prefer enquiries via email at the moment because I can read my mails everywhere and everytime. Usually I I’ll respond in the evening when you ask for for an appointment on a relatively short notice. If your desired date is somewhat farer away I’ll probably take time for it during the weekend.

Also the possible time for sessions changed:

Mo – Fr not before 18:30
Sa & So the whole day, minimum booking time 2 hours

Appointments must be arranged at least one day in advance. Also a possible deposit must have reached me at least one day before our appointment.

Kinky Impressions of Hotel Sessions

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Nachdem ich mich entschieden habe, mich aus der Studiolandschaft zurückzuziehen und nur noch völlig unabhängig “on location” in (vornehmlich) Hotels zu spielen, hat mich eine Menge positives Feedback erreicht und ich bin sehr dankbar für diese Rückmeldungen und das in mich gelegte Vertrauen!
Heute gewähre ich einen kleinen Blick durch’s Schlüsselloch der Hoteltür, um euch einen Eindruck zu geben, wie so ein Fetisch-Escort im Hotel aussehen kann.
Natürlich ersetzen Bilder niemals das Erleben ;)

I got a lot of positive feedback for my decision to draw back from working at a dungeon and being fully independent and doing sessions on location in hotels and fetish locations. I thank you all for that feeeback and the trust!
Today I will gift you with a little glimpse behind the hotel doors to give you a taste of how a fetish escort session may look like.
Of course pictures can’t substitute the experience ;)

Kinky Places Worldwide

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Es gibt ja eine Menge dieser Listen á la “10 Dinge, die du in deinem Leben gesehen haben musst”. Heute kam für mich die Frage auf:
Welche Fetisch-Locations sind so toll, dass man da unbedingt mal gewesen sein muss?
Primär denke ich dabei an BDSM-Apartments und Dominastudios, in die man sich einmieten kann. Aber auch besonders tolle Parties, Geschäfte o.Ä. aus dem Fetischbereich sind als Tipp ganz herzlich willkommen. Beglückt mich mit euren Favoriten! Wo seid ihr besonders gern oder wo wollt ihr unbedingt mal hin?

There are a lot of these “10 things to do before you die” lists. Today following question sprung to my mind:
Which fetish locations are so great that I just need to have seen them?
Primarily I think of BDSM apartments and dungeons for hire but I’m also very happy to hear about awesome parties, fetish shops and things alike.
Delight me with your favourites! Where do you love to be or where would you like to go some day?

Just some stuff for being a naughty doctor…

I guess my postman starts wondering why I get so many big and heavy packages :D
Today I restocked some of the bare necessities for playing safe and clean while being very dirty ;)

Eletro therapy with TENS stimulation; irrigator, enemas and rectal catheders for anal preparations; sterile lube for urethal sound play, some basics like tape and one-way sheets and some face masks just because I love the look of them! :)
I have an entire rack at home where I hoard expendable items like the the mentioned above, NaCl infusions, different gloves, needles and much more. I can easily turn your hotel room into a bizarre healthcare centre! :D